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How come love between men and women so difficult? On this groundbreaking new book, top selling author Terrence Real analyzes the crisis in intimate relations, a crisis that has lasted greater than a generation, yielding divorce rates of 40 to 50 percent. Our culture prepares us to fall in love, but it does not give us the abilities we have to stay in love. Here Real offers a radical new vision of love and the practical tools with which to accomplish it. The current crisis is a product of changing gender roles, Real explains. Before 30 years, women's roles have changed radically and men's have not. For the first time, adult women are asking their partners to access the skills - emotional sensitivity, expressiveness, responsibility - that a lot of men experienced stamped out of these as boys. Patriarchal culture will not raise boys to be intimate; it increases them to be competitive performers. At the same time, girls are taught to be compliant and accommodating. The effect is that men feel bewildered and unappreciated while women feel unheard and resentful. Conventional therapy, which reinforces "traditional" male roles, has failed. The demand for intimacy in marriage must be met with new skills. Real draws on myth, literature, film, and heartrending stories of the men and women he treats to illustrate his compelling analysis. Breaking taboos about love, marriage, and passion, Real not only reconstructs gender roles but also implies that patriarchy's idealized style of love is impossibly flawed. He teaches partners to displace it with a love that acknowledges imperfections, and then provides five Core Relational Skills made to help every couple reach their full potential. Innovative, powerful, and eminently helpful, How Can I Get Through to You? is the book that every couple has been waiting for - and our culture needs.
