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Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love the other person just as much as ever?
Can we want what we already have?
Why does the transition to parenthood so often spell erotic disaster?
Does good intimacy always make for good sex?

Ether Perel assumes these tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our search for secure love conflicts with this pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and libido, and explains what must be done to bring lust home. In her two decades of clinical experience, Perel has treated a huge selection of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on? In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. It really is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex can be done, but first we should kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our own bedrooms. While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's undertake bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to place the "X" back sex.