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Jeb Kinnison's earlier book on getting a good spouse by understanding attachment types (Bad Boyfriends: Using Connection Theory in order to avoid Mr. (or Ms.) Wrong and CAUSE YOU TO a Better Partner) brought a lot of people to JebKinnison.com, where the most asked-about matter was how to approach avoidant addicts and spouses. There are plenty of now in stressed marriages who are looking for help, as well as people already committed to a relationship short of matrimony who'd like help deciding if indeed they should stay with it. People in connections with avoidants have a problem with their lack of responsiveness and incapability to tolerate real intimacy. Associations between an avoidant and a partner of another attachment type will be the largest group of unhappy relationships, and people who love their lovers and and also require started households and got children with an avoidant will continue to work very hard to try to make their connections are better, out of love for his or her spouse and children as well as their own happiness. The avoidants in these connections are more than likely unhappy with the problem as well - retreating into their shells and feeling harassed for being asked to answer with positive feeling when they may have little to give. The other reason so many people are looking for help on this topic is that it is an almost impossible problem. Lovers counsellors rarely have the time or knowledge to work with an avoidant and will often advise the spouse to give up over a dismissive, especially, whose lack of responsiveness looks like cruelty or contempt (and sometimes it is). Yet there is some trust - though it may take years and require educating the avoidant on the patterns of good lovers communication; if both lovers want to change their patterns toward more secure and satisfying models, it could be done.
