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An instant comes for each and every addict when the consequences are so great or the pain is so bad that the addict's life becomes uncontrollable because of his / her patterns. Some are news-making occasions, like the public censure whenever a congressman, minister, basic, or professional athlete is cited for unacceptable sexual behavior. For most people those occasions are followed by resolves to "never repeat", but somehow after the offer is made, they often times end up in the very same location doing something they vowed never to do again. That's addiction. And for a few, this addiction is more difficult to analyze than in others. Such is the situation for gay men. For a few gay men fully committed to wide open sexual choices and experiences, changing their sexual patterns and restricting their intimate freedoms is like going back with time and surrendering to homophobic behaviour often found in conventional culture. It just doesn't feel right. After all, the urban gay male culture bordering him fully facilitates his intimate exploits as long as the making love is safe. And since gay male sex addicts may not discuss their intimate behavior even with good friends, nobody challenges them on their late-night exploits in unsafe places, their arrest record or brushes with regulations, or potential health threats for their behavior. The truth is gay male making love addicts aren't compulsively sexual for their sexual orientation, but rather as a consequence of their individual emotional issues and natural predisposition toward obsession. This is exactly the same group of risk factors provided by straight male sex addicts. However, for the gay (making love) addict, his increasingly destructive patterns of behavior happen against a social background of dramatically greater intimate and public freedoms than those loved by his heterosexual peers.
